March 10, 2020 • Page 2 shop online at www.missourivalleyshopper.com Dave Says Take Time To Heal And To Learn Dear Dave, Marjorie Pincus looked out the front window at her husband, Marvin, and smiled. No matter how old he gets, she thought, he’ll always be the boy I remember, riding his bicycle through this town so many years ago. Marvin had stopped picking out the nutgrass and was watching a small group of children across the street in the park. Two of them had kites, and the brisk wind of morning had them both up as high as string would allow. Soon, Marvin had ambled across the street and was standing behind the children, watching the taut dip in the string and listening to the rattle of the tight paper. The first time Marvin Pincus flew a kite in this park, airplanes didn’t go very far or very fast. The other side of the moon was a mystery in those days, and no one really thought man would ever go there and back. Not really. And here these kids are, flying their kites the very same way, with the very same rag tails, and looking up at the earth-tied fliers climbing with the gusts and settling with the relaxation of the breezes. Marjorie watched from across the street as the Herrera boy walked over to Marvin, whispering something as Marvin leaned down to hear, and then handed the stick with the kite string tied to it to the old man. His face beamed as he controlled flight once again. The kids smiled, too, probably not realizing kite flying was the same when Mr. Pincus was a kid, too. But what about the dreams? Marjorie thought about this. What goes through the minds of today’s kite fliers who know what the surface of Mars looks like, who know what the far side of the moon looks like, who know there are human beings in a space station, living up there, right now? What will their dreams be as the kites dance? What dreams will dance now as they stand there and hold the miracle of flight in their fingers? 319 Walnut St. Yankton, SD 57078 605-665-5884 Entertainment Patty’s Dance St I went through a divorce a couple of months ago, and I’m not sure what to do next. I received custody of our kids, ages 13 and 15, plus I have a good job and I got the house in the settlement. It’s a nice, simple home, but it’s paid for and worth about $200,000. I receive $1,400 a month in child support, and I got $125,000, which was half our savings. I also have no other debt. Most of my friends are telling me I should begin investing, but they all have Dave different ideas about where I should put the money. Can you give me some guidance? Michelle RAMSEY Dear Michelle, I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this. Divorce is hard enough when it’s just a couple, but it must be incredibly difficult with kids involved. Make sure you spend lots of time hugging on them, and telling them how much you love them. God bless you guys. Ok, I know your friends are just trying to help, but I wouldn’t follow their financial advice right now. The By Richard P. Holm MD He was my neighbor, a guy my age, a man of many talents and interests, and a dear friend. He was one of those fellows who would give the shirt off his back to help you, if needed. When he was diagnosed with cancer of the pancreas spread to liver, he, his daughters, and his friends knew how this was likely going to go. But we didn’t realize how graciously he would handle his dying process until it happened. He was treated and truly helped by chemotherapy for a while, but gradually the tumor cells developed resistance to the drugs and the oncologist suggested no more chemo. He was ready to have only pain meds and hospice. In the end, per his direction, with the help of hospice and the caring people at the small-town nursing home, he shuffled off this mortal coil comfortably, surrounded by his family and friends. 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He has authored seven best-selling books, including The Total Money Makeover. The Dave Ramsey Show is heard by more than 12 million listeners each week on 575 radio stations and multiple digital platforms. Follow Dave on Twitter at @DaveRamsey and on the web at daveramsey.com. Comfortable Death Utica Hall Clay Creek Band trauma from your divorce is still fresh, and you should never make important, long-range decisions when your emotions are messed up. If there’s anything positive in all this, it’s that you’re in a really nice place where your finances are concerned. You’ve got a good job, you have no debt, and you’ve got six figures sitting in the bank. My advice is to park that money in a CD until you feel you’re getting over the shock of what has happened. You won’t make much money doing this, but you won’t lose any, either. Then, after some time has passed, I want you to find a good financial advisor—one with the heart of a teacher—and look into investing $25,000 in good growth stock mutual funds. I’m talking about ones with at least a 10-year track record of success. Time and knowledge can help erase fear, Michelle. Plus, you’ve got a responsibility to yourself and your kids to invest wisely. —Dave of ready-to-heat-and-eat tater-tot-like hot-dishes; an advanced directive that said he was not to have medical intervention if pointless; and plenty of pain medicine for comfort. When I visited him two days before his death, despite an expanding belly full of cancer, he told me he was getting enough meds and was comfortable. Most important, he was absolutely not fearful but courageously accepting of the dying process. In comparison, I find it tragic and too common that patients and families are overwhelmed with a fear of death. Some suggest this disabling dread comes from our cultural practice of covering up death with the intent to make life easier. Thus, a lifelong apprehension and running from death has become the norm. Bottom line, too many people choose to be dragged through unnecessary suffering at their end of life, and too often doctors and nurses comply. We could do a better job stopping unnecessary medicines, touching our patients more and providing comfort to not only the patient, but to the patient’s family as well. Dying people have the right to ask for and be reassured that enough comfort medicine will be provided and that it’s going to be alright. Our profession has been improving in this regard, but certainly could do better. When it’s time, it’s important that we all have the opportunity for a comfortable death, just like my neighbor. Richard P. Holm, MD is currently living with pancreatic cancer. 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